I miss him and what we had together but Im trying to give him his space right now. Seems like maybe this ran its course. At first, this seemed romantic because it meant that he was thinking of you. Then 3 months later he popped up in a text message telling me: i dont know why we stop talking to each other, i really dont know why, do you? UGh!! Now lets all breath a sigh of relief that those Houdinis did us the courtesy of finding something better! He showed to be possessive of me, even though he has not officially asked me to be his gf. His self esteem couldnt handle it. I had a crush on this guy for a really long while on social media and I followed him on facebook, out of curiosity and i didnt even talk with him. Ok, so as Im salsaing with this guy ( who btw I was not interested in, strictly dancing) the bartender put a piece of paper into my hand and asked if I remembered his name- of course I did. I signed up for POF not even 3 weeks ago. I have a deep understanding of masculine and feminine psychology, the biological influences that shape our relationships today, and the ways people communicate their romantic feelings and intentions. I know you love jazz and thought you wouldnt miss the opportunity to join. Life isnt about karma. Guys suck but there is definitely a good guy out there for you. These are the type who really cant appreciate us so even if we took it further, we would probably still get that ghost end result. The man I was dating? So, if he ghosts again, hes out. Absolutely call the person on it. . my theory is that creating friendships first is ALWAYS the way to go- you build trust you explore mutual interests, and if there is attraction it can get steamy romantic and it happens to be someone you actually like. Nope. And stay strong!!! What to text him when he disappears has also to do with your ability to text while being stressed and anxious. Incompatibility happens. Ive asked that too.. Do you want me to leave you alone? He just says, why would I want that? People deal with stress differently! On the fourth day I snapchatted him and he opened it so I texted him saying hey whats up? I saw his dating profile on Bumble last Sun. He told me not to leave but I couldnt stand this his Always busy reserved nature so.. I didnt hear from him and waited until this week (week 9) to email him and see how he was going and were his head was at. I need to know so I can heal and find someone who deserves me truly. I know many men that constantly try to improve themselves to find an amazing woman. Though sometimes it hurts when I think about the good times we spent. Then you just wont care if this guy you have been dating disappears. Did I respond incorrectly? Continued to text but avoid weekends until of course valentine rolled around. My general feel is that if a guy is not asking to see you/wanting to meet up, he s not that invested. He said he thought we needed to break up because he didnt care anymore. Believe it or not, it usually has nothing to do with you. Theres one of two things going on here- either hes bipolar/clinically depressed (which does happen believe you me) or he switched his focus to another girl. He didnt said anything and just did it. 2. I dont know what I could of done differently. Until the last date. We started seeing each other. The sooner you break loose of any connection to this kind of relationship, the better your chances of meeting the right one for you. Anyway, as you often write here, we cant settle for less that we want. Hes gone. He gave me his house address, out of a joke, and I delivered cakes to his home..personally, before I invited him off for a cup of coffee. My feelings are hurt but I will not make a Priority, anyone who has made me just an Option. He stopped answering my calls, I checked on his Facebook and he was actually having fun. He was such a gentleman through out the trip that I could see myself falling in love. I guess a red flag on first date was he talked about the ex cheating on him?! So I was unsure of which of my broken-hearted hate filled texts he was getting. I didnt want to involve my family or friends just as yet. i didnt understand what was going on at first, i admit i panicked and did all the things i wasnt supposed to do like texting him and giving him attention, i thought of every single excuse why he wasnt texting me back or calling ( busy with work, family issues .. ), i blamed myself for everything and thought am i not good enough? To state it more clearly, myself and many of my close friends have dated women who at first seem pretty wonderful, but their interest in us as PEOPLE takes a distant back seat to their interest in us as men. Once I came back off holiday it was a month after the break up, I went to his to get closure because I wanted to know why he did it. But my resentment and hurt is now greater than the sex ever was. I educated my self enough to let go. BUT And contrary to popular belief, we arent sex crazed fiends looking for the next one night stand. But he was making plans to go for a trip the other weekend (But never mentioned that we are gonna celebrate my birthday). He told me about his problems and his family and he would always reassure me when I get insecure. He made me feel so alive again. Sometimes, it can be just testing your interest level, if they have reason to believe you may not be that into them. That is what cowards do. Randomly the next day I get a message. Me to trust him. I texted him good luck at the job the night before he started he says thanks :), then I didnt reply till a few days later to see how he was doing we texted back and forth a bit then he stopped, he then texts me two days later to see how I was doing I told him I been going through some stress and all he says was you need anything I am always here for you to talk, this was the first time since we been dating that not once he initiated to see me at all that weekend or anything just texting back and forth and him replying every few hours, I texted him the day after to ask about his weekend then texts me over a day later to say it was good how about you I replied same good weekend also then after that poof never texts me again barely see him on Facebook anymore literally pulled a ghost on me I never been so confused about something like this in my life and I just have this emptiness inside and I cant stop myself from crying, why couldnt he just tell me from the last time I saw him he doesnt want to see me anymore, why text me first then slowly drift away, why drop me when I accepted all his flaws and try to comfort him Everytime he had an episode, why let me meet your family and friends when I wasnt anything serious to you, all these questions stuck in my head like glue and no answers, I know that it takes time to move on but really how can a person just be heartless and cruel like that, its been two weeks, and I hadnt hit him up after he bailed on me cause of family troubles and he hasnt hit me up either. We recommend writing a letter addressed to him in which you let out all your frustrations. Hi, Ive got an extra ticket to the jazz bar tonight. Just because you meet someone and they dont turn out to be who you thought or they disappointed you because they didnt behave a certain way or meet certain expectations doesnt mean that it wasnt worth it. Then a few weeks later he expressed that he was moving to his parents 3 hours away to get his life together.I accepted that because I understand when you fall you need help and that was his goal getting his life back on track. You like the guy, and he seemed like no other! VR will be the death of material relationships Anyway, back to your situation Yeah, umm What did you expect from an internet ghost? Once I came back off holiday and sour a month after the break up to talk. There is nothing to fear but fear itself. 1. Things had been fast and intense between us. I said it took you an hour to talk to your ex. Thats why it will be best to go our separate ways if we realize that were not a match. Sunday night I felt that maybe he was embarrassed by not having sex so I sent another text. Never ever ever give a dude money. That can not be about me. I ignored the red flags. My boyfriend of 5 years did this to me several times! What did you end up doing? Then come back, then two weeks, on and on. i spent the last few days crying and devastated and thinking up messages/emails to send him. So did you find any girl interested enough to chase you? I am 46 and he is 58. People who get self righteous and critical about itlike youin my experience are the worst offenders of all, they just wont admit they do it. When you want to text him what your needs are, it can sound something like this: Hey, I hope youre doing okay since I havent heard back from you. I think he did want sex and since he didnt get some he decided to go ghost on you. This time Conversations nothing too too Its been 3 days since contact. Hes just immature, thats how I see it. Yet he still doesnt talk to me or see me help!?! Are you going to be a mentally stable mother.if not consider what you should do.keep the baby, abort the baby or adopt out the baby. If he's got a reason like this, we say text him as you did before the ghosting happenedbut be on the lookout for him pulling future Houdini-style disappearing acts on you. We want a great relationship. For me, he is perfect. There was never really a boyfriend/ girlfriend type relationship from what I read. Lol! When a guy disappears from your life only to reappear sometime later, it can actually mean that hes too possessive. I guess I have to take my pick because hell never admit any of these reasons. I am devistated and not sure what to do. I had a really hard time reading your storyI only understood half of it. it probably means he has zero tolerance for even the mildest sort of confrontation and simply doesnt relate well to other grown ups when communication is key, ie awkward/emergency/emotional situations. I feel as if I no longer mean anything to him and this is very hurtful and heartbreaking. He would tell me everything and we would laugh and we only had two arguments but it wasnt bad at all. When Im hurt and I tell him, he ghosts. Its disgusting but karma has a way of going around. Thats what Shannon and I were getting at. (just aint gonna work out girl) , I just wanted to update my situation contact has been made. In my opinion men should not get away with this kinda of behavior. I really like this guy and it would be really disappointed if I dont hear from him :(. so there is no frikin way that i am going to text him after reading about your experiences. During our friendship I knew he had a crush on me but never pursued it for fear of having to meet him in person, so when he started talking/dating a friend of mine I backed off and ended contact with him. All the best.. Anyways he have me his number and we talked for the next day or two. I guess I got him when I pretend that I dont like him. I would often think about him and wish him happy birthday every year but one he failed to receive and the second time we started texting again for about a week. Ive learned not to overreact next time and have some patience and restrain from looking like Im the crazy one. So I texted him. No return phone call was made. There was reciprocation on his part, we spent 3-4 days per week together every week, except when work schedules didnt allow. It has been a struggle everyday to not think about it and wonder why or how he could do such a horrible thing without saying anything. Why say he loves me then?! He has never gone this long ever before without contacting me. He disappeared after we had sex. he makes you laugh. I think theres nothing wrong if you write him a short casual message, Give it a week or two, if he didnt answer back, maybe its best to start moving on and slowly forget him. Disappeared. But now there has been nothing! I really regret that I forgave him the first time he did it. Not to be vain but she was nothing g special to look at smissed it but it caught my interest. I enjoyed talking with him a lot and he told me that he enjoyed it too. He doesnt reply. Even though a part of you knows that he doesnt deserve you reaching out to him, the other part still desperately wants to do it. The next is silent treatments and ignoring texts. I sure didnt and dont. Let catch up later. I never responded after that and thus far havent heard from him. He eventually answered but just a yes told me his schedule then an ugh. You need to find a man, not a boy. Text him only once after he disappears. 1) You slept with him within two months of seeing him,two months is not a long time. The broken promises of I will be back in a few weeks from work and it changes to months and months. I wouldnt say we were boyfriend or girlfriend but he told his mother about me and his best friend and told his stepdad that he was happy. We are better off giving up on them and not ourselves by chasing after them or pinning over them. And Im currently going through one now. This came out of left field as I really really thought things were going well, except for the last week that I saw him in person. So I pressed him for an answer:do you want to to end it? I dont want such a guy in my life. Most are liars, and the other ones are cowards. We finally met. As I once heard someone say your picker is broken. Theres nothing wrong with you. I decided to give in, texted him to say hi, how are you. No question. He might need therapyBut it is not your responsibility to babysit him through itLet him go and sort himself out..You have tolerated it for too long, and you deserve so much better..If/when he sorts himself out and decides to stop being a big, grumpy baby, he will come back and pursue you. I like to think I have developed thicker skin over the years but something keeps nagging me this is so out of character? I anwered that that that was sweet and that i missed him. My advice to you is that next time, look at actions, not words. The city I dropped him Then suddenly he went cold. So maybe its better if you keep your unhelpful, condescending remarks to yourself because obviously YOU have a lot to work on if you need to go on an internet forum and diminish others to build yourself up. Im gonna feel better in no time, I hope. Date many people but do not sleep with them. Its not like we went out for one date or even two. I had no idea what to think. Then on and off texting, on fathers day I wished him a happy holiday and he said thank you. Am quite stunning, educated, with a good job and great conversation skills!!! Yes. Then he asked when we will see and I answered Not today and I finished texting me back Okei, you tell me when. I have been with someone for three months . Try to keep your ego out of your relationships as much as possible. I told I was inlove and begged him to forgive me for anywrons I did.. he gave me a date when we could Meet but the day came and he was still gone But now I know its pointless trying to get intorch with him. The next day comes and he tells me hes sick and then i say thats ok and then i ask him if hes ok cuz he seems weird. Because it gives us closure. I need to know. The meetings starts getting canceled and then I was out for business trip for 2 consecutive months and then went to my home country. I know what youre about Why cant he just be a man and break up with me to my face?? Also, I commend you for being honest and telling her you were nt feeling it. 2. if a man I date did not contact me in 2 or 3 weeks, I never initiate contact. Ummm, wow. All I can do is just lay low and see if he reaches out to me. I said it appears you are still available to her. Then I met this other guy at class in 2014. My birthday plans were two days later. Be grateful it wasnt any longer- you need people in your life who communicate out of honesty, not out of fear. As I usually have a non-memorable birthday alone (its mid-August, so people are always away or too busy), I was wary but it felt good to have someone I liked be interested that I have a good day. I did so because I needed to let him know that his behavior by ignoring is unacceptable. This last time, I have no idea because it was the best the relationship had ever been. He said we would get together sometime that weekend; that didnt happen. and we talked everyday up until now. after reading your articles everything started making sense to me that he lost interest and i realized he doesnt like me that much anymore. The problem is that what drives us away are the things that some women do and continue to do that they dont fix. The dates are always fun and then they drop off. Hard times dont build character, they reveal it. Three years is a long time to just break up over a text. I didnt know that message because it happened that I deleted my account on whatsapp so when we got the chance to text each other thru bbm, thats the only time i read that message after 8 days. I recently joined a dating site and met with someone whos company I enjoyed. he said theyre only fren. We met up for a cup of coffee and here is the funny thing :P I still laugh about it till now, even though it was 10 months ago! ) Men generally arent eager to bet THE REST OF THEIR LIVES on a shallow relationship. I also told him I agreed it was moving fast but I was following his lead. He says I can text whatever it is. I ask him if he wants to keep talking. Of course this maybe just wishful thinking, and he is not contacting me because he is just not into me anymore, but I would like to reach out one more time before he forgets me, wish him a happy new year, let him know that I waited to hear from him after the 4-6 week break (at least he said! Ive tried initiating contact a few times, But he disappears mid conversation (which i find rude) And then i wont hear a peep again for weeks on end, So i stopped doing it. I mean come on, thou cant even call me? So, I just want to make sure whether were on the same page as I really appreciate it when guys can admit that theyre not into the relationship. You ignored the second indication he wasnt into you by creeping the profile of the girl he actually was interested in, which makes you a bit psycho. 1. we were both bored with our lives, we started talking about going on a trip together in asia.. im gonna pass on the details but the day before I was supposed to move back to my home country, and so 3 months before going to asia, I found out he had blocked me on social media (even though he kept texting me)..I was devastated and humiliated (I had to find an excuse when every kept asking me when r u going to asia again? After six months of mourning, I joined a club. I know hes been extremely busy with work and its been going well for him but that didnt stop him in the earlier weeks! He might do the slow fade out, meaning he stops initiating contact and when you reach out to him he takes hours or days to reply. And that was the last thing I heard from him. And the annoying thing is, he isnt even the type of guy I would normally go for. He seemed down to earth and nice. Did he offer to meet. So this one happened to me as well. Im still broken up about it I guess I just dont understand. Here are a few signs that he's doing the slow fade: He's distant during sex and leaves as soon as he can afterward. I know this day must be hard for you(my dad passed). If you dont hear from him in a week, you can definitely let him goAnd dont initiate contact with him at all. He then said I had him on a pedestal and he didnt feel he deserved it and had we been further into the relationship he wouldnt be so scared of it but being its so new his guard is now up. Thats what Women have reduced themselves to. He wasnt over expressive but we mutually marveled at how much we already liked eachother, etc. He replied an hour later that it definitely was a good night. I met a guy he was acting all angelic.. boy was he good at it:) I couldnt I let myself be fooled by his act I am so ashamed of myself now that I let him take advantage of Mr. We had sex.. the sex was great.. but then I fell inlove and then he started acting like he never had sex with me Thatd when it hit me hard that he just wanted a quickone. Let the ball be in his court. I just want to say, good luck Naomi you are nice person and you will meet someone better eventually:). Its unfortunate when you know you dont have the same connection with the new guys youre hanging out with. We still texted but minimally and he came to pick me up midday for food and a little excursion. Hes told me he loves me and very emotional things, but in the past week or so hes pulled back, and has been cold. he knows that this would drive me nuts! Have you contacted him again? Hed tell me how he cant believe that this is happening, he would tell me its unreal, he would tell me how beautiful i am, he even told me how much I remind him of his mother. But what to text him when he disappears? I agree depending on the circumstance. Reading your comments helps. My boyfriend Kenny dumped me on Valentines Day, since he break up with me Now that hes shown you how little he really appreciated you, its time for you to show him your back. Talking to you was lovely, but Im afraid this is not how I like things to flow within the communication. But they would know next time that this is not OK. And if another and another woman would do the same to him Then on a 5th or 6th time they would think twice if they are going just to disappear without a word! And usually what I do is pull back and give them a dose of their own medicine. We talked about the future and how he was coming to see me in nov. And 3 months later he will leave on our 5 month anniversary. It was a casual friendship, not like talking everyday and that kind of thing. I started online dating and met this awesome guywe were texting literally nonstop for there days. Last year I dated 4 guys. Eventually I gave in. We never had words, I asked him, so, this is it? I know that you like him and that you may have even thought that he was the one but he used his actions to show you that hes not the kind of a guy you expected him to be. well, he turned out to be owner of multinational company, an extremely intelligent, extremely rich and very balanced man. Its all about me, me, me, and oh by the wayme again. A friend of mine had a guy ghost on her because hes heard (wrongly) she had cheated on him! He replied a few days later and then we started texting each other on and off every couple of days. ButI have read a few articles that I downright disagreed with that sort of blamed the woman for a breakup. Monday comes around he doesnt send a good morning text. I have not contacted him since, nor him me. I told him i knew he was never going to contact me again. I am no longer going to chase a guy, if he is interested he will chase me. Its really done a number on my confidence because let me tell you, I truly trusted thi mans character and would have never thought him capable if something so cruel and immature. . He always vanishing, sometimes untill 3 days or more. Move on. This will eat away at your self-esteem and will repel any new potential suitors that might come along. Right to come along, if he does exist, or looking for Mr. I bought books upon books be a guy magnet Helped me get him back and I bought different books to get him to be open to me and guess what he is more open and we are enjoying our relationship. Is he trying to prove that he can forget me?! after the first time i completely lost myself. 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